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One of the easiest clues is that your partner verbally abuses you in front of other people, regardless of the fact that they are close friends or relatives. Your partner will express love for you but the careless actions say otherwise.
Often you will experience a constant fear that you are being spied upon and they may even go so far as to open your personal mail or read your email messages.
In severe toxic relationships your partner will try to make you wholly dependent on them, such as escorting you places you need to go or withholding monies from you so you are in a position to ask for funds.
You may find yourself constantly striving to change things about yourself in order to please them, instead of remaining true to yourself. Over time you may even start to feel ill at the thought of devoting energy to the relationship.
How do people end up in these types of toxic conditions?
Seriously no one wants be around someone with the potential to cause harm emotionally or even sometimes physically. As with all relationships there is a cycle to the toxic one.
In the beginning everything is fine and wonderful, then the toxic person finds a reason to blow up where there is a chance for a makeup period but the cycle reoccurs time and time again. Usually things go on in the honeymoon phase for so long that before you know it you have fallen hard for a toxic person with seemingly no way out of the relationship.
Often people in toxic relationships have come from toxic type homes. Without a change in pattern they tend to duplicate exactly what they witnessed growing up. This can also result in poor self image and you are stuck with the attitude that toxic relationships are all you deserve. Another pitfall is that toxic behaviors become a pattern of taking care of other people.
Once you mentally reassess your relationship and determine you do have a choice that will be your first step to making the decision to move on. The longer you expose yourself to toxic patterns the lower your self esteem sinks and you risk severe depression. Make the decision to start standing up for yourself. The toxic partner will try to convince you that everything is your fault.
If you follow this train of logic it will make it more difficult to stand your ground. If you are not able to do it on your own, seek out counseling either one on one or locate a therapy group. Knowing that others have walked in your shoes and found the way out of toxic relationships will aid you in your resolve.
Many people have built relationships based on healthy behaviors or if they chose to be single they find ways to become happier on their own.
In some cases the toxic relationship has been transformed and both partners are able to rebuild genuine trust. With patience and knowledge most relationships can be saved.
It takes both partners in the relationship working together to renew and heal. Make up your mind that you are willing to sever the connection if the relationship continues in a toxic vein. If you don’t make that decision clear ahead of time you may never be able to end the toxic cycle.
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Source by Joel Williams
